Washing Machines II + Emotional Intelligence

I guess you’re all waiting with baited breath to hear how the new washing machine went…

Yes, it washes really well. No smudgy black stains on our darks anymore. $900 well spent (I did have a lawn sale -translation for non-Territorians: garage sale– last weekend to fund the purchase). Lucky Goldstar, you are a star.

Enough about eco-friendly washing machines (I still can’t believe I am actually writing about bloody washing machines!!).

In other domesticity, Gadgetman finally got the part for his red sports car (I mean … mid-life crisis … oops, did I say that?) and now the little red GTO is registered with NT number plates and hooning about Alice Springs.


He also bought himself a tiny little remote control helicopter (to add to the HUMUNGOUS remote control plane he bought a while back and then crashed) this morning which he tells me he’s going to fly INSIDE … Hmm … HMMM!!!

Stay tuned…

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Last week I finished a book I’ve had on bookshelf for about 2 years called Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. It’s a very well known book that caused quite a stir when it came out a decade ago – the message being that people needed emotional intelligence as much as, if not more than, our usual intelligence (our IQ). It had some profound effects upon Western management practices and has (along with a number of other factors) become part of an emerging human-centred style of corporate management.

A lot of the book focusses on the neurobiology of emotions (basically, blame the amygdala for everything … and no, the word is amygdala not Amidala). The amygdala is part of the primitive brain that looks after our very core survival needs -such as the fight or flight reaction. In tense situations, the amygdala ‘takes over’ our emotional reactions, making us get angry or irrational and short-circuiting the neural wiring in the brain that leads to the cerebral cortex and other lobes of the brain where more ‘evolved’ emotions and thought processes take place.

If you’ve done first year psychology at uni, this book won’t contain a lot of new information (first year psychology has a lot to answer for in my life!!). I admit I got a bit bored with the book, but persisted. However, there was one section that offered some very useful advice for short circuiting the reptillian reactions of the amygdala and redirecting them to the Bodhisattva frontal lobes. It’s taught to fifth and sixth graders in emotional intelligence programs in ‘dodgy’ areas in US cities:

RED LIGHT:

1. Stop, calm down, and think before you act

YELLOW LIGHT:

2. Say the problem and how you feel
3. Set a positive goal
4. Think of lots of solutions
5. Think ahead about the consequences

GREEN LIGHT:

6. Go ahead and try the best plan

I’ve tried this a few times this week and it’s worked for me. It’s very similar to the self-awareness techniques taught in yoga and vipassana meditation, so I suspect that’s why I found it useable. Anyway, if it’s of help to anyone, my time spent typing this up will be worthwhile. Check out the book for more info if you’re interested.

On that note, I’d like to be able to have links to books on Amazon (with pictures) like some other blogs do, but the functionality here isn’t great. This can’t be done without a lot of faffing about with HTML (it is possible, but it’s very fiddly).

Blog Alert: Gadgetman and I are thinking of migrating our blog elsewhere and are currently examining our options. AND HERE WE ARE ON THE NEW SITE!!!

So we will be looking at this over the weekend and will probably come up with a suitable new place which suits our creativity (and lack of HTML skills) better.

Namaste, Amanda

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